^ for some reason, I cannot see any pictures posted from a desktop (I can only see photobucket etc. images).. but thanks for the tip. I'll have to go to bestbuy and grab one of those. As for the regulator, I wired it backwards, as I had read that it was originally incorrect, but I guess not

. I will switch that back and hopefully all of my problems will be fixed.
Here is my oem antenna (sorry for iphone pic) - orange cable w/ black head

And the kenwood adapter is much longer and they definitely don't fit together
oh and btw I got a kenwood dnx6140 I think.. is bypassing it hard to do? I grounded the parking wire but nothing else