What is the best way to do it??? i usually take off the positive first then the negative....is there a better/safer way??? ive heard of them blowing up if you put the cables on wrong or something and i dont really feel like getting blown up.....

let me know the best way to handle it because i just want to be as safe as possible....

 

Vice versa.
Lead first on, last off to avoid electrical shorts

 

ok so black (-) then red (+).

 

yes negative is always the first one off and the last one back on. Less likely to cause a spike that way too.

 

If you put the cables on backwards, you will fry the alternator.