Carless
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Carless
I got in a fight with my dad tonight after work. He was already pissed off that me and my mom went behind his back and bought the car, and when I walked in he started screaming at me about it. I started screaming back saying we financed it in my moms and I am paying the notes so he has nothing to worry about, and he started bitching about how I don't need a new car until I get out of college and he will never buy me a new car. I reminded him that he said Sophomore year that if I had a 3.0 until Senior year I would get a new car, and he said he meant 'newer'. He told me if I get TOPS (2.5 GPA) I would get a NEWER car, and I said that was a bull**** deal and he swore to me that I would get this car.
A bunch of bad words and such ensued and I'm really pissed off right now. He said he is bringing it back tomorrow, and I will be carless. Can he even do that once we've bought it???
A bunch of bad words and such ensued and I'm really pissed off right now. He said he is bringing it back tomorrow, and I will be carless. Can he even do that once we've bought it???
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RE: Carless
I don't know if he can bring it back or not, but he was probably just mad. Give him some time to cool off. He probably had a bad day and you were just someone to take it out on.
If it's in your mom's name only, I don't think he can do anything, though. As long as she sides with you, which judging from her going behind his back, she probably will, you're good.
If it's in your mom's name only, I don't think he can do anything, though. As long as she sides with you, which judging from her going behind his back, she probably will, you're good.
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RE: Carless
ORIGINAL: Xemeth
I don't know if he can bring it back or not, but he was probably just mad. Give him some time to cool off. He probably had a bad day and you were just someone to take it out on.
If it's in your mom's name only, I don't think he can do anything, though. As long as she sides with you, which judging from her going behind his back, she probably will, you're good.
I don't know if he can bring it back or not, but he was probably just mad. Give him some time to cool off. He probably had a bad day and you were just someone to take it out on.
If it's in your mom's name only, I don't think he can do anything, though. As long as she sides with you, which judging from her going behind his back, she probably will, you're good.
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RE: Carless
Did he say he was taking it back tommorow?
And I can see him being mad. I mean, from the sound of the story, he came home from work and a brand new Mustang GT/CS was sitting in the driveway. I know I would be like "WTF?!"
He'll probably cool down though. What did you get in the arguement liek a few hours ago? See how he is tommorow. I doubt he'll go as far as to actually take it back. I've never heard of actually returning a car. Unless it's one of those dealer things where there's a "*fill in the blank* day money back guarantee" thing.
And I can see him being mad. I mean, from the sound of the story, he came home from work and a brand new Mustang GT/CS was sitting in the driveway. I know I would be like "WTF?!"
He'll probably cool down though. What did you get in the arguement liek a few hours ago? See how he is tommorow. I doubt he'll go as far as to actually take it back. I've never heard of actually returning a car. Unless it's one of those dealer things where there's a "*fill in the blank* day money back guarantee" thing.
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RE: Carless
ORIGINAL: Xemeth
Did he say he was taking it back tommorow?
And I can see him being mad. I mean, from the sound of the story, he came home from work and a brand new Mustang GT/CS was sitting in the driveway. I know I would be like "WTF?!"
He'll probably cool down though. What did you get in the arguement liek a few hours ago? See how he is tommorow. I doubt he'll go as far as to actually take it back. I've never heard of actually returning a car. Unless it's one of those dealer things where there's a "*fill in the blank* day money back guarantee" thing.
Did he say he was taking it back tommorow?
And I can see him being mad. I mean, from the sound of the story, he came home from work and a brand new Mustang GT/CS was sitting in the driveway. I know I would be like "WTF?!"
He'll probably cool down though. What did you get in the arguement liek a few hours ago? See how he is tommorow. I doubt he'll go as far as to actually take it back. I've never heard of actually returning a car. Unless it's one of those dealer things where there's a "*fill in the blank* day money back guarantee" thing.
This just happened actually, I got home at 11. He didn't know I had the car at all until the next day because he was sleeping when I got home from a party that night. When he found out he was mad, but REASONABLE. Today he just went off, and so did I. It ended in me and him both slamming our doors. My mom kept telling us to calm down, and we were still going at it ... I'll tell you this much, it feels alot better to get it all out on here, lol ... Sorry if I'm bitching ... but I just lost my 2002 V6 and my 2007 V8 ... I'm a little ... frustrated???
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RE: Carless
Dude, just calmly approach your dad and talk to him man to man. Just explain to him that a new car is better than any used car. It has a 2 year warranty which will insure your covered on any potential problems, and just sit down and prove to him that you can afford it, if he starts to scream then just stay cool, screaming back solves nothing. Oh, also appologize, appologies go a long way.
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ORIGINAL: jthorn9
Dude, just calmly approach your dad and talk to him man to man. Just explain to him that a new car is better than any used car. It has a 2 year warranty which will insure your covered on any potential problems, and just sit down and prove to him that you can afford it, if he starts to scream then just stay cool, screaming back solves nothing. Oh, also appologize, appologies go a long way.
Dude, just calmly approach your dad and talk to him man to man. Just explain to him that a new car is better than any used car. It has a 2 year warranty which will insure your covered on any potential problems, and just sit down and prove to him that you can afford it, if he starts to scream then just stay cool, screaming back solves nothing. Oh, also appologize, appologies go a long way.
It all started today because he called me and asked me how I was going to pay for the car, I said I was paying the notes, and he laughed, said bye and hung up ... So I called back, he hung up. Did the same and then I hung up and did it for a good 3 times, called back and asked him if he liked being hung up on, hung up on him, turned my phone off.
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RE: Carless
Tyler, first part of life you're going to have to learn is how to talk to your parents and people in general in a mature way. Like I said, screaming sloves nothing at all. You MUST talk this over with him, fighting will only make things worse. You're getting to that age and time where it's time for you to act more grow up. Remember I was a teenage too, and being hardheaded never gets you anthing. Like I said, just play it cool, if he sees you're playing it cool then he'll be cool as well. Trust me, if your dad came into Home Depot screaming I could have him walking out of there happy and smiling, it's all how YOU handle the situation. If he starts screaming, in a calm voice just tell him, dad I want to talk this over, but if all you're gonna do is scream, then I'll come back when you're ready to talk. That is a huge adult statement, and if you tell him that, you'll deffinitly catch him off guard and he'll relize you're trying to be grown up about this. Seriously, no father can be more of an *** hole than my dad was to me when I was a teenage, but show him you're grown up and he'll let you have the world.
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RE: Carless
ORIGINAL: jthorn9
Tyler, first part of life you're going to have to learn is how to talk to your parents and people in general in a mature way. Like I said, screaming sloves nothing at all. You MUST talk this over with him, fighting will only make things worse. You're getting to that age and time where it's time for you to act more grow up. Remember I was a teenage too, and being hardheaded never gets you anthing. Like I said, just play it cool, if he sees you're playing it cool then he'll be cool as well. Trust me, if your dad came into Home Depot screaming I could have him walking out of there happy and smiling, it's all how YOU handle the situation. If he starts screaming, in a calm voice just tell him, dad I want to talk this over, but if all you're gonna do is scream, then I'll come back when you're ready to talk. That is a huge adult statement, and if you tell him that, you'll deffinitly catch him off guard and he'll relize you're trying to be grown up about this. Seriously, no father can be more of an *** hole than my dad was to me when I was a teenage, but show him you're grown up and he'll let you have the world.
Tyler, first part of life you're going to have to learn is how to talk to your parents and people in general in a mature way. Like I said, screaming sloves nothing at all. You MUST talk this over with him, fighting will only make things worse. You're getting to that age and time where it's time for you to act more grow up. Remember I was a teenage too, and being hardheaded never gets you anthing. Like I said, just play it cool, if he sees you're playing it cool then he'll be cool as well. Trust me, if your dad came into Home Depot screaming I could have him walking out of there happy and smiling, it's all how YOU handle the situation. If he starts screaming, in a calm voice just tell him, dad I want to talk this over, but if all you're gonna do is scream, then I'll come back when you're ready to talk. That is a huge adult statement, and if you tell him that, you'll deffinitly catch him off guard and he'll relize you're trying to be grown up about this. Seriously, no father can be more of an *** hole than my dad was to me when I was a teenage, but show him you're grown up and he'll let you have the world.
It's not as easy as you think it is. I'm going to give it a shot tomorrow and hope for the best.
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RE: Carless
Actually it's very easy, I've just had a lot of practice thanks to the ole HD. If you're dealing with a person like that, then best thing to do is shut up and listen. After they made their statement just say, OK, take a deep breath, and just say, I see your point, but this is how I would do it, or something along those line. At some point he'll have to listen because he'll get tired of hearing himself talk. It may take two minutes, it may take two hours. But if you show him that you, or atleast appear to, care about his opinion, then he'll probably listen to yours. At that point work out some middle ground. That way you both get what you want. You want the car, your dad doesn't want you to screw up because of the car, so you'll have to take if from there.