thanks a lot for all the help provided, i'll keep you guys posted

 

got my relay today, i was able to get the old one out and soldier a new one in, check it out.
Didn't have time to pop it back in the car but I'm keeping my fingers crossed and hope that the problem is fixed now

 

i'm an idiot, the fuse that was blowing all the time wasn't for the fuel pump, it's the ccrm and pcm fuse.
i put the ccrm back in today and the car started for about a second and died right after. Yes blew another fuse. I searched for PCM and it turns out to be the ECU? please tell me i'm wrong, i don't wanna get a new computer.
Also a reply would be very helpful, my pony's been dead for 2 weeks and i can't wait to bring it back to life